One of the fascinating aspects of the human mind and body is the idea of self-organisation. That is, our mind and body naturally self-organises and moves towards health and a sense of well-being.
You cut your finger, your body heals. You have a stressful day, you fall asleep and the next day it’s not so bad. You have an argument, an hour late your body has calmed down and you can’t remember what you were angry about in the first place.
Of course, there are times when we need help and shoulder for support. However I believe that we all have the ability to change the way we think and approach certain situations without visiting a therapist.
The first step, and sometimes the hardest for some is realising that change has to happen. It’s only after we can accept our own flaws and current situation that we can then start to turn things around.
A simple way of starting to change and take control is to look at others and see what they did. Is there someone in your life that went through a similar situation and handled it? Is there someone you know or even saw on TV that was able to make an important change to their circumstances? What can you learn from them? What steps did they take that you can take for yourself?
When we look at what others did, the actions they took, the beliefs and motivation that drove them, it can teach us what we need to do for ourselves. We can learn what worked for them without having to make the same mistakes.
Naturally there are many different ways of changing and making yourself feel better. But it all comes down to the same thing, you need to want to change and have to commit yourself. If you change nothing, nothing changes.